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| 21 units for the next quarter, plus a part time job and partial weekend job... hmmm... feels like the days at community college.
BRING IT ON.
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| i don't feel productive today.
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| A couple of days ago, I had an interesting talk with my mom on the way to San Jose,for the lunar new year. She was explaining me about her personality. With no shock there, I was the complete opposite of her. Basically, this is who I am:
- I get mad very easily over the little things, because to me, it's all the little things that matter most
- I don't stay mad too long, because I don't want to spend my life being mad and staying mad, I let go
- With forgive & forget, once I'll be able to forgive, I'll also be able to forget.
- I tend to give people second chances, even though some of them do not deserve it.
- I procrastinate more than I have to
- I don't sugarcoat things to make YOU feel better, I'm not here to make YOU happy
- I'm straightforward, many people many not like, but it's better than liars ANYDAY
- When inflicted with pain, I'll return the favor two times more
- When you're considered family or a close friend, I will never lay a hand on you, even if you did something terribly wrong
- I spend more money on food than anything else, I love to eat
- I don't like to go shopping for too long, like an hour, I would wary and sleepy.
- When I decide to really care about a particular person or friend, I would base their needs before mines.
There.done.
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| School and work just started a week now... and I feel ready, prepared, and good. Getting busy and moving things along. I feel good about myself today. Getting shit done.
But then, I think about friends. Family is ok, school is great, work is beginning to feel like 'work,' but friends, there's the dilemma. So far, looking back, these are my classifications:
1. Acquaintances that are called "Friends"
---- People who just call you to go hang out and have fun. They don't talk to you about their problems, and same goes for you. You're just there to enjoy and make most of the time. No problems.
2. Long Distance Friends
---- People who you will always call friends, but rarely talk to, because they live far, FAR away. You don't talk to them about all your problems, because they're not close enough to be up-to-date. But you'll aways miss them and find the opportunity to 'hang out' (although most of the time, it fails). Which would lead to two options: (1) you just stopped talking or talk to each other once in a blue moon or (2) you would have a falling out over a misunderstanding and end up hating each other (or just not being friends at all)
3. Friends with Benefits
---- You know this well enough, I don't even need to explain.
4. Selfish Friends
---- Friends, who aren't really friends, do not call you to ask how you are doing. Instead, they will always call you for help and advice. Never ever, did it occur to them, that you may have problems that you may want to talk about too. The world revolves around them, but yet, they still think they're good friends just by talking to you. You be nice and help out, but always, in the back of your head, you know this person never asks HOW YOU FEEL and HOW ARE YOU DOING.
5. Busy Friends
---- Life is hard, people get busy. There's a life besides friends. You make time for them and they try to make time for you. There's no time for all the little dramas, and you tend to enjoy more. Because then, when you are so busy, you only have enough time to spend with friends who actually cares about you, and not friends who use you.
6. Best Friends
---- This is kind of overrated. You become too close to someone that it's so easy to get into a fight with them. You would think, "Why would this person who knows so much about me, do this shitty thing to me?" "I thought you were my best friend, why would you [say, do, or act] like that?" Eventually, these friendships either last a long time or fall short in a couple of months.
7. Close Friends
---- Friends you have fun with, understand your personality, share secrets with, understand their personality, and want to BE THERE FOR THEM & THEY WANT TO BE THERE FOR YOU. This is great, because the whole 'best friend' gives the friendship too MUCH OF A TITLE, where expectations might occur. With this, lean back and people will enjoy your company, as you enjoy their company.
8. Ex-Boyfriend, Ex-Girlfriends WHO ARE NOW JUST friends
---- Who are you kidding? If you guys get a long well now, then maybe the relationship wasn't as close as it should have been. If you think you're just friends, what does s/he thinks? You can't treat them like a normal friend, because all the intimate details are still somewhere flashing in your head (whether you care or not). Eventually, you'll start dating and s/he starts dating.. then there goes the friendship, down the drain. No one wants their gf/bf still 'close' with an ex. OR you might just pick up where you left it off and start the relationship over.
I have more, but I can't think of it. This is how I see it and I am stuck on no. 4 and 5. What do you think?
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